In the rush of everyday life, it is easy to overlook your own personal well-being. However, the journey towards a healthy and happy lifestyle requires that you take the necessary time to care for and nurture yourself. Only after you’ve shown yourself some love and attention, can you then help others too. Think about it in terms of airplane oxygen masks that drop down during an emergency. Flight attendants always advise you to put on your own mask before you help others. This seems rather obvious, because you cannot come to the aid of your fellow passengers if you are unconscious. However, this rule is easily applicable to our lives in general, but often overlooked. Similarly, in life, you cannot tend to others if you are not functioning properly yourself.
Caring for yourself can seem like a burden amongst the hustle and bustle of your daily routine. Many of my clients argue that they don’t have time for self-love in their schedules amid school, work, maintaining relationships, and/or caring for their children. How can you expect to care for your children, your parents, your significant other, your friends, etc. if you can’t be bothered to care for yourself? If you are motivated to become the best version of yourself, you must first work on you. In doing so, the well being of your mind, soul, and heart will be maintained and your interactions with others will be more purposeful and genuine.
There are several ways to incorporate self-love into your everyday lifestyle. The practice I highly recommend to my clients is meditation. Meditation is an excellent, easily personalizable option because it can be performed anywhere, and you can choose whether it takes 1 minute or 1 hour. The practice of meditating encourages you to temporarily disconnect from the outside world to focus on your inner being. This minute act of self-care will improve your attitude towards yourself, and this satisfaction will contribute to the ways in which you help others. In addition to meditation, you may also find success in working out, planning a spa day, cooking a nourishing meal, or watching your favorite movie. Clearly there are a multitude of methods for showing yourself some much needed love, but it is up to you to find the activity that makes your heart and soul the happiest.
While you may find yourself feeling selfish during this journey toward self-love, assure yourself that this is both natural and necessary. An element of selfishness is necessary for you to show selflessness. If you do not care for yourself, then you will not have the attitude or energy necessary to help others. I encourage you to stop putting the health and well-being of others above yours, and prioritize yourself. Others have great love for you and the things you do, but most importantly, you must love you too.